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Resource index
One place to find our pathways, guides and worksheets, the independent-service directory and urgent help. Written information comes first, and the directory lists some services only.
Urgent help
Six pathways
- Before the baby arrives
I want to know what could change
- My own wellbeing
I am not feeling like myself
- The relationship at home
Our conversations keep going wrong
- Babies and preschoolers
I want to stay close to my child
- A family changing shape
We may be separating or living apart
- Other fathers and community
I need people who understand
Ten guides
- Preparing to be a dad
You deserve preparation for the emotional changes of parenthood, as well as the practical ones. Your own wellbeing belongs in that conversation.
- Your wellbeing matters too
You can care deeply about your family and still need care yourself. You do not have to wait until someone else is better before asking for support.
- When your partner seems different
It can be lonely to feel that something has changed while your partner sees the situation differently. Your need for support does not depend on agreeing about the cause.
- Anger, conflict and feeling unsafe
Being hurt or frightened deserves to be taken seriously. You can ask for support without first deciding whether a mental-health condition is involved.
- Being there for your baby or preschooler
You do not have to produce a perfect day. Start with the care your child needs, familiar routines and support for the adults providing that care.
- When everyday life feels too much
Sometimes the most useful support is a meal, help with an appointment or someone taking on an agreed task. Practical pressure deserves a practical response.
- Finding people who understand
You may want to listen first, talk privately or meet other fathers. There is no single right way to make a connection.
- Finding the right professional support
Finding help can involve more than locating a phone number. Eligibility, language, cost and waiting time all matter.
- When your family is changing
Separation can bring grief, uncertainty and practical pressure. Your own support and your child’s needs both deserve attention.
- Support after the hardest days
Your needs do not have to disappear when the immediate crisis passes. You can return to support as circumstances change.
Seven optional worksheets
- Your support map
Identify the different kinds of support you could use.
- Questions before birth
Prepare questions about your own needs before the baby arrives.
- Prepare for your own appointment
Put the most important points in your own words.
- Prepare a conversation
Use only if a conversation feels safe. This sheet does not assess or diagnose another person.
- Make this week more manageable
Choose a small number of realistic tasks, not a perfect schedule.
- A familiar day for your child
For an adult to prepare. Use only truthful, age-appropriate information.
- Check a support option
Find out whether a service is suitable before relying on it.
Independent-service directory
The directory lists some independent services in the United Kingdom, the United States, France, Germany and Switzerland; it is not complete for any country, and we have not confirmed that every service can take a new contact or answer a call.